Stop overstaying: Time to move to the next stage
Have you ever felt a girls bit uncomfortable being in a certain situation or at a certain level!? Well, it happens always!
Life is socially structured in such a way that once in a while, you will feel that your social stature, age, professional status, and many other personal attributes you have, don’t get along with certain things anymore.
Maybe you are a teacher who likes going to a night club and time comes when you start meeting your own students in the same club. You definitely feel inconvenienced and the immediate reaction is the thinking that these students are actually in a wrong place. Yet in actual sense, you are the one in the wrong place. You have overstayed at that level and the actual occupants of the level have found you there. Time to move to a better place!
Maybe you are a powerful politician, who has been respected for a long time. You have all you need but you are still interested in holding power. Time for election comes, many young people start challenging you. One of them, a pop star and musician actually stands against you. You condemn the young people for engaging in things of old people. You start feeling a bit not comfortable competing with the young people. You think the young people are actually jumping the queue 🤔. No the actual truth is that you have overstayed and you are now occupying the place these young people are supposed to occupy. Time to move on to another level. You nolonger fit here.
Maybe you have stayed longer in the organization and people come and go and leave you there. All of a sudden young people start challenging you. For obvious reasons, they are more exposed to updated knowledge and information, and they can easily navigate the digital infrastructure and era, and you are here thinking the young people are being in unfair to you and are not respecting you. You feel a great sense of entitlement and somehow you are costing the business. My friend, the truth is that you have overstayed. Time to plan your retirement and leave the stage for the younger generation.
Maybe you are a visitor who has come and the host is very happy and excited, you have stayed for a week, and because the host was happy, they have spent barely so much to make your stay comfortable. After the second week, you notice that the host is nolonger as excited as they were in the first week. They nolonger care so much about your comfort, you even start realizing that the host may try sometimes to dodge your long chats. When you notice such, don’t just start blaming the host for changing. Just appreciate that you have overstayed and the costs of hosting you are either becoming unbearable.
Just pack and leave. A good visitor is the one who knows when to end their visit (the Bakiga have this saying, i have directly translated).
Maybe you used to visit some local drinking place (kafunda) and recently when you go there, you meet the village illiterate boys, you watch as they puff their marijuana and chew the other stuff (mairungi). You watch them as you also enjoy a bottle of beer 🍺and as they smoke, you also inhale some smoke. And you start complaining to the barattender that the boys are making your favorite place unwelcoming, you think the boys should be cautioned to keep a friendly environment for you because you sure now educated or you are jow a “big person”. I have news for you, you have overstayed in that “kafunda” . It’s time to move to to a more descent leisure place. This kafunda is nolonger your level.
Ladies and gentlemen, life has some sort of social calendar and it must be respected. There is time frame for childhood, time frame for teenagehood, timeframe for youthhood, timeframe for young adulthood, timeframe for adulthood, timeframe for elderly life, and at all these stages, there are things that are expected of you.
We know that children are supposed to be dependant and we must care for them. We expect young adults to start thinking about certain things like family and alot more contribution to society. We know that elders are expected to be advising the young people and sharing wisdom.
Every status level has social expectations. Educated people are expected to behave a certain way because they are enlightened. Exposed people are expected to have a better understanding of diversity and inclusion, and the like.
At all these levels and owing to one’s social stature, if you fall short of any of these expectations, trust me society is always going to judge you.
It is very wise for individuals to always seek to understand and appreciate whi they are so that they know what society expects from them. It is also important to be aware of the circumstances sorounding you so that yiu don’t end up overstaying and know when it is time to move on.
Anyways, in whatever yiu do, learn to know when the right time has come for you to leave, to improve, to change, to act, and avoid overstaying because it can make you look funny.
Until my next Note, Greetings from Kigarama!
Humble Citizen, Kigarama – Ndorwa East