Learn to live with an open mind and a closed heart.
I have been on earth for only 31 years. Am certainly not so old enough to present myself as an expert on matters of life and living.🤦🏽♂️ I am not so successful, I have only succeeded at becoming Kigarama’s best export to Kampala😂😂😂. But I have a few nuggets I have appreciated in life and I want to share some of them.👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻
I want you to pause and ask yourself a question; “For how long must you burn your fingers before you can pick a lesson from your failures or mistakes!?” Well, you don’t have to answer now, but you can take this for a reflection/meditation line.
So, in the last 31 years, I have learnt that “life is a series of experiences” and to live a certain kind of life depends on how you surely appreciate and purpose to experience certain happenings in life. Problems/challenges and opportunities can be perceived differently depending on your attitude and/or any other life factors surrounding you.
I have also learnt that if you move always with an open mind, and a closed heart, you will certainly find life more interesting. And I want to explain these two.👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻
Moving with a closed heart: One day, I was disappointed with a friend who had not fulfilled what we had agreed. The same day, I had a journey with my cousin sister Rosette. On our way to Mpigi, she noticed I wasn’t fine. She asked me and i narrated to her my ordeal with my friend. After narrating to her, she told me. “Alex, people are naturally selfish, and there are those who will hurt you even when you least expect it. So, better build a strong wall around your heart so that it is not easy for someone to break into it”. This was a very important statement to me at a time when i was trying to find my purpose in life. Therefore, I want to encourage you to do the same today because this particular nugget has helped me manage my relationships with the people I meet in life. It can help you too.
Secondly, always move with an open mind: I had problems with some of my teachers in school because I always held a strong stance on most of my opinions. For lack of a better phrase, I was stuck on my opinions. I would strongly defend my views and this sometimes got me slots onto debating fora. But this would cost me academically.
Later in life, when I stepped foot into leadership at a young age, I realised that it I not cool to close your mind and hold onto one opinion or view. When I joined the world of entrepreneurship, I realised that having an open mind exposes you to so many world views, so many ideas and opportunities.
It is then, that I “threw away the lock and key to my mind.” I started learning more often and started realising that life is not that stressful but we choose to make it that. I started realising that what we know as happy life is actually not what it is.
I realised that living a happy life, be it in business, politics, public service, in the forces, and everywhere else, you need to maintain only two things; a closed heart, and an open mind. Once you maintain these, you will managed disappointments that come with relationships with people, you will become more industrious because with an open mind, you learn new things and opportunities every day, and as a leader you are also approachable.
To you who is reading this, try to maintain a closed heart and an open mind, you will thank me later.
I bring you greetings from Kigarama!
Alexander Kyokwijuka, Humble Citizen, Kigarama – Ndorwa East